| Noname |
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K ill try and sum it up.
I'm divorced w 2 kids 10 & 7 met a guy who is also divorced w 2 kids 8 & 4 we met almost 2 years ago and have since had a baby of our own. My ordeal is learning to deal with the fact he has a ex
(which by the way has cheated lied and stole from him tried to poison his drink and left him for 1 of his friends and has since had one kid and pregnant w the 2nd. She has lied to the state and was able to get her fingers on his tax return then to rub it in his face as we are in the hospital enjoying our baby together! then to turn around and act like she has never done anything to hurt him or us~!) Every time i see her i want to punch her face in cause she totally has no spine. She owes this one day care lady over 500 buck and the other day at preschool orientation she walked right up to her and started small talk not even caring she owed her money! that's crazy to me! anyways by now you can tell i have anger issues!
Spite all that she has done i don't trust her around my boyfriend who despite all that shes done to him in the past be for they have ended back together and had two kids together. SO in my mind i feel like what if she manipulates him again and i get hurt. like shes a pill popper smokin freak! i cant stand her and i so afraid shell take him away from me. I get all paranoid when he goes picks up his boy i question everything on what she said to him. (which he has 90% custody of them)I mean she prego and with that guys still but a snake in the grass! Shes the type to want her cake and eat it to.
anyhow this is effecting our relationship needless to say cause he trys to reassure me but nothing seems to work how to i put more faith and trust in him? how do i just learn to not let her annoy me so? |
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| sali |
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You have to trust HIM not her. She is obviously not trustworthy - so forget about her entirely. He's w/ you, why would he ever want her back especially w/ kids from other men, why would he want such a nightmare situation...again. Give your man a break. He's dealing with enough already w/ the ex...let him give his kids the best he has w/out you on his back too. Enjoy him, his kids and your kid...that's the only control you have at this time...or likely ever. |
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| ohnoname |
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 I do agree its more like a jackal and hide thing one side is paranoid and the other is say in exactly what you say. some times i go crazy just Battle my self. now another challenge we both face is co-parenting my kid your kid deal... him and i get along great when its just us two even when its just us and his boys or just us with my kids mix us all together holy mother of GOD! just dress us in black and white strips give us a whistle and its on! him and my daughter (who's 10 and big time daddies girl) go head to head all the time she back talks him like hes another kid Ive punished her in almost every fashion i can think of praised her big time when she holds her tongue just in the heat of the moment they both cant control their mouths and i get stuck in the middle feel in like i have to choose sides its a drainer... |
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