| Leslie |
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| April 09, 2008 at 12:14 PM |
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| #1 |
We struggle with family gatherings and the ex-spouse. There is always some kind of meltdown by her prior or after each event we've tried to do jointly. We really like her mom and dad and would love to include them in our functions...just not her. I wish she could be as mature as her parents when it comes to being civil to us and letting bygones be bygones. The kids really love to see both set of grandparents at events. We can't invite them w/out inviting her - too bad. We do welcome them over anytime when we have the kids. That works, maybe that's our only option until she get's it! |
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| RN |
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| #2 |
I'm not divorced, I've been married for 30 years, but I have a few friends who are divorced. A few are remarried and a few are not. The common theme seems to be, the ex wife is a bit of a hassle but they are still good if not great friends with their ex in-laws. I can't quite figure that part out, but it seems to be what's going on. I'm glad at least some part of their old life is still good. |
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| josie |
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That is because the in-laws, the friends, the family, etc are not a part of the emotional baggage that sourounded the break-up (the lying, cheating, or whatever happened). Most of the time, the two people involved are basically good people, just not good together, and one or both can't get over it, hence the bad experience in getting together when it is all over. So, now that the marraige is over, the in-laws have to go too. Sometimes it is just easier that way. If you have a discussion with the in-laws and decide you CAN have a relationship with them without the son / daughter, well that is truly a special thing. Most of the time, however, blood will be thicker than water. Sad, but true. Casualties of war I guess. |
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