| Jane |
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| March 27, 2008 at 08:15 AM |
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I learned this lesson the hard way. "Be careful what you say". In real life it's hard not to be upset or say things to your boyfriend/husband while upset when the kids are around - biological kids or step-kids - that's just reality. I really wish I could just zip-it and wait for the right time to "discuss" the problem with him, but when it's right in front of you, it's really hard. I don't believe I'm the only one - but not only is it bad for the kids to hear you upset or say things you really regret, (not about them, but about your husband or whatever) but they go home, sometimes, and tell their mom/dad and then now its even worse....Being in an ex situation means there are really 3-4 of you in this marriage, not just you and your husband/wife. There is a lot to take on when you decide to marry someone with a previous family. |
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| Gina |
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| April 07, 2008 at 10:57 AM |
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I've had a great/good relationship with my step kids in the past. They are getting older,wiser and sassier. One of them overheard me saying to their Dad that I was glad they were "heading home" after a weekend where her attitude was just out of control. I feel bad about her having to hear it, but at the same time I hope she understands that in our house we have rules and need to respect others. No nannies, house cleaners or unlimited spending sprees exist w/us. Trying to discipline a step-child is hard work and lots of time feels useless if they are not consistently in your life. I hope we can recover from this sooner than later. |
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